Q: A family friend asked me to be her son’s godmother. I refused because I didn’t feel that I was at a place in my life where I could be responsible for anyone other than myself. My friend has said that she understands, but I feel that it’s put a strain on our relationship. I am starting to regret my decision.
How do I make it up to both of them?
A: You can start by writing a letter to your friend’s son. Introduce yourself and welcome him into the world. This gesture will mean a lot to your friend, and hopefully bridge the gap that has developed between the two of you. Send a nice gift. Check-in with Mom to see if she needs anything and bring by a meal after she gets home from the hospital which would be greatly appreciated by all. You were right to be up-front about your current situation, but now is the time to show your true colors (the reasons why you were asked to be his godmother in the first place).
With the time you have to offer, give your friend’s son what you can without compromising your personal situation. Just keep on being a good friend, with her life being turned upside down, she needs you now more than he does!
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Originally posted in MODE Magazine © 2016 All rights reserved by Emme Associates, Inc