AskEMME: GODMOTHER

Q: A family friend asked me to be her son’s godmother. I refused because I didn’t feel that I was at a place in my life where I could be responsible for anyone other than myself. My friend has said that she understands, but I feel that it’s put a strain on our relationship. I am starting to regret my decision.

How do I make it up to both of them?

A: You can start by writing a letter to your friend’s son. Introduce yourself and welcome him into the world. This gesture will mean a lot to your friend, and hopefully bridge the gap that has developed between the two of you. Send a nice gift. Check-in with Mom to see if she needs anything and bring by a meal after she gets home from the hospital which would be greatly appreciated by all. You were right to be up-front about your current situation, but now is the time to show your true colors (the reasons why you were asked to be his godmother in the first place).

With the time you have to offer, give your friend’s son what you can without compromising your personal situation. Just keep on being a good friend, with her life being turned upside down, she needs you now more than he does!

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AskEMME: GOTTA HAVE GIRLFRIENDS

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple of years, and without really noticing it, I gradually stopped hanging out with my girlfriends. At first they would nag me about it, but then they simply stopped calling. Now my beau wants to throw a birthday party for me and I feel strange approaching my friends. It’s been a year since I’ve seen them, and I’m afraid they’ll tell me to get lost.

A: Hey, this is not all bad. Your boyfriend sounds like a nice guy and you feeling guilty about abandoning your friends is a wake-up call.

Girlfriends are vitally important to have in all stages of life. The key here is to balance your relationships. Just as you need time alone to take care of yourself and time with your boyfriend, you need girlfriends to relate to and share with. Your friends will forgive you. They might be a little hurt so let them have their say, then show them how much they mean to you by not only including them in the ups and downs in your life but show them that they can rely on you in theirs as well.

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