AskEMME: HYPOCRITICAL PARENTS
Q: I am a 27-year-old woman. My Mom is Puerto Rican and my Dad is Irish. For the past few months I’ve been dating a black man and, believe it or not, my parents would flip if they knew. Since I’m still living at home, I’m feeling really guilty about the whole thing. To top it off, I’m starting to get very close to this guy, but I don’t know how to explain my parents’ racism to him. Should I break up with him now before I get in any deeper?
A: Whoa! Have your parents looked in the mirror lately? It’s really hard for me to think that you’d give up this guy for the sake of saving face with your hypocritical parents. Racism is not the only problem here- you’re old enough to stand up for your personal choices. This is a great opportunity to grow. I think it’s time you had a long chat with Mom and Dad about your beau. Tell them that you don’t understand their racial views, especially since their own marriage is a mingling of cultures.
Hear what they have to say and let them know how you feel. Then ask them if your boyfriend can come over for dinner. Hopefully, your parents’ main concern is your happiness, and if they see that this man is good for you, they should be supportive. It’s time to let the cat out of the bag.
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Originally posted in MODE Magazine © 2016 All rights reserved by Emme Associates, Inc