"The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment." ~ Lady Dorothy Nevill

I can admit it. Sometimes words come out of my mouth faster than my mind comprehends them. It may not be until hours or days later that I pick up on a visual cue that tips me off that I've offended someone.

There's two options that can happen once you realize you've put your foot in your mouth, been rude, or insulted someone. You can ignore it and pretend it never happened. So easy today and doesn't affect the comfort zone.

Or, my personal favorite, you can call yourself out and apologize to the person. "Remember, yesterday when I said... well, I really want to apologize for being insensitive." It's a little more difficult but is guaranteed to make you feel better and likely to encourage further discussion and ultimately erase the bruise.

Don't you think if more people did this there would be less hurt feelings going around. You know that stuff that builds up and builds up. How many times have you been asked if you're pregnant. Or when someone's died gotten the proverbial "well, they're in a better place now". Ugh. I've even done that one.

Calling yourself out takes the onus off them and puts it on you, where it should be. Hopefully in the end everyone grows.

Your goal for tomorrow is to prevent foot in mouth disease and if it so happens that you slip, call yourself on it as soon as possible. And here's the bonus, call someone else on it too; because believe it or not, some people don't know they are being insensitive and need some lite schooling.

Good luck and take care of yourselves!